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Tiny unnoticeable things

Published 4 months ago • 1 min read

Tiny unnoticeable things

Show us your T.U.T.s Reader,

WOW! Okay, do please re-read that because it cost definitely didn't say what you thought.

T.U.T.s – tiny unnoticeable things

The little moments of magic (of success) that we overlook, sidestep, ignore... the invaluable patterns that our brains miss, but that make an enormous difference.

Let me give you an example (or four):

  • The unsolicited thank you message you humbly respond to and then immediately file
  • The brave 'no' you said to something that didn't feel quite right
  • The extra minute you took to finish that cuppa (and the boost that tiny pause gave you)
  • The new room you walked into (even though it felt big and unfamiliar)

You turn up in your business many, MANY, more times than you realise, but your brain isn't capturing those moments. Instead, it is focusing on the outcomes it is expecting from the patterns it is trying to stick to.

"Do what you've always done, and you'll get what you've always got"

It whispers. It's not that it doesn't want you to succeed – quite the opposite. It's just the version of success it is programmed to pursue almost definitely doesn't align with the version of success that reflects who you REALLY are and what you truly deserve.

What does 'good enough' look like for you?

Maybe it looks like the LinkedIn post from that person whose content you adore... if only you could come up with more posts like that?

Maybe it looks like shaving two slides and an extra five mins off that last presentation – I mean the feedback has been great but if you'd had more time, it could have been AMAZING!

To me, those two stories sound like someone else's version of 'good enough'. So, I ask again – what does 'good enough' look like for you?

Take a moment to notice the small victories, the messy steps forward that you took last week... write them down (the phrase 'smile file' came out of a conversation I has last week... create a smile file).

Reply to this email with your list.

Each of those tiny wins prove you're living your own version of 'good enough' already.

P.S. There's nothing wrong with a little ambition. It helps to know, though, that you're starting from a better place than you might otherwise think.

Mark Franklin, The Four Fears® Guy
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Mark Franklin - The Four Fears® Guy

Transformational Mindset Coach, Speaker & Author

I help business owners and leaders embrace The Four Fears® – the four most common mindset barriers preventing them from enjoying the success they deserve. "What are The Four Fears®?" I'm so glad you asked... :-)

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