Too much? If anything you're not enough!

Did you use to watch Friends, Reader?

If so, you might remember when Ross moved in with Joey and Chandler and, after a short while, began asking them to 'quiet down a bit' in various scenarios.

Ahh, those sanctimonious little hand gestures. We all laughed because, well, Ross... but...

Has it happened to you?

Did someone, at some time, tell you to 'bring it down a bit'. Maybe not in terms of volume. Maybe in terms of attitude, viewpoint, enthusiasm, commitment... you were being a bit too much for them.

For 'them'...

Remember that last bit.

I'm assuming you're 'good people'. You are kind, respectful and you try to do your best for others. If someone feels unsettled, put out, maybe even threatened by your kind deeds and high energy actions... how much of that is a 'them' problem'?

I was chatting with someone recently who was worried that "the person they are does not fit into what is 'expected' from the person who typically does what they do".

Expected by who?

Sounds like 'them' are at it again

'Them' worry me... The world is feeling a bit prickly right now – seemingly just two sides to every conversation (and less willingness to listen to either side).

'Them' might be holding you back from being 'you'. And not just today.

There may have been a Ross moment in the past – a hand gesture (perhaps without the sanctimony) that asked you to be less 'you'. It may not have been meant with malice; it was just the other person feeling caught up in their own feelings. They meant no harm.

But it stuck with you. And you've become well-practised in not being 'as much' as you can be.

It's not about 'them'

Again, with the caveat that you are 'good people' aiming to do good in a world that is encouraging 'less', be 'more'. Be as much 'you' as you can be. Unapologetically... bravely... wholeheartedly...

Where could the world (your world) do with a little more you? Go do that.

Mark Franklin, The Four Fears® Guy
​www.markfranklin.co.uk

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