How's your energy this week?

How will you 'show up' Reader?

"Your vibe attracts your tribe" – that's one I heard last week
"Your emotions are contagious: make yours worth catching" – that's a popular one

Dr Andy Cope (from the Art of Brilliance) used to tell a great story about a former colleague who "could light up a room... by leaving it".

Ouch!

I'm sure you already know that how you show up affects how you are remembered. Your personal brand is what people say about you behind your back.

The common theme behind all of these buzzy statements, though, is this:

Energy

The energy you leave on the table.
But what about the energy you pick up from the table too?

Energy, like time, is a precious resource

How, where (and with whom) you spend it counts for way more than you sometimes realise. Unlike time, though, energy can be replenished.

How, where, (and with whom) you top your tank back up is something that is easily overlooked.

In my last email I talked about giving yourself 'permission to be selfish'. Energy management is a prime example of where that selfishness is well spent.

Last week, I was out from silly o'clock to silly o'clock every day, walking into rooms that mattered hugely to me and my business. I knew it would take a huge amount of energy to ensure the conversations that continued after I left, would count.

I tried to be the most interested person in the room
I tried to give a little more than I received
I tried to listen more and talk less

Time will tell if I did good deeds (some early responses below), but the most crucial element of my week's plans came on Saturday, when I set aside a deliberate tranche of time... to do f*ck all.

Not all day (my brain won't allow that), but enough to let my body recognise what I had received from those adventures and how my soul has been nourished by those people and places.

I'm an introvert, so whilst I am okay walking into new spaces, I have to build in time to recover from 'giving myself to others'. And that's what I hope to encourage you to contemplate today.

(BTW I've been to conferences where I got it wrong – I 'just couldn't' past lunchtime, so I hid in the loos and checked my phone as that felt safest).

Confidence attracts confidence

I was chatting to a new business owner on Wednesday about how confidence attracts confidence. Who you are, how you work and what you offer becomes infinitely more attractive to others if you genuinely believe in it yourself.

Confidence is generated from well-managed energy. Low energy = low confidence.

My three top tips for your energy management

Notice and cherish what you receive from each room (as well as what you hope to give). Turn that reciprocal energy into fuel
Take stock of your energy diary before you even leave the house (or turn on the zoom camera). Is your week full of appointments that take much more than they give? Are these appointments ones that you could auction or avoid?
PLEASE... make time for 'f*ck all'

Take care of yourself so you can better take care of others!