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Do nice folk finish last?

Published about 2 months ago • 1 min read

Do nice folk finish last?

What are your thoughts Reader?

I've always had a problem with that saying.

'Nice' is such a wishy-washy word and no one wants to be thought of as 'wishy-washy'. I get that. Also, we want to protect our boundaries: our time and our energy. So, we draw certain lines:

  • "You can't just pick my brains"
  • "I don't do coffee & catch-ups (without charging)"
  • "Let's not do a clarity call... you either need my help, or you don't"

Harsh (maybe).

It's not about the podium position

We don't want to finish last, so we set boundaries in order to avoid 'defeat'. I wonder though... is it more that we are being asked to compete in the wrong race?

Success vs happiness... why not both?

So many of us have spent too long following a path to success that someone else mapped out:

  • Concentrate at school
  • Go to uni
  • Get a good job and work your way up

The bills get paid; the house gets a little bigger and the car gets shinier. That's the definition of success, right? Race won (possibly at the expense of happiness...?)

What does happiness look like then?

  • Follow your crazy dream
  • Stay 'different'
  • Ignored the pokes and prods from those on the "success treadmill"
  • Run your own "success race"

How does that sound? Better, worse or the same? (I sound like my optician)

This is where I'm supposed to offer the answer...

That's good marketing. I tease you with a pain that you're all too familiar with and then offer salvation with my custom-made solution... ("which is currently on special offer" - eurgh).

There's just one slight problem with that:

  • It's YOUR custom-made solution (not mine).
  • It's YOUR story
  • It's YOUR version of success/happiness... or both

You're 'nice folk'. You deserve to win your race. That's why I DO do clarity calls, coffees and catch-up's. That's why you CAN pick my brains.

I'm here to help you choose the race that's right for you.

P.S. I'm nice folk too ;-)

Mark Franklin, The Four Fears® Guy
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